Historical Context & Deprogramming

1. Know the historical trauma of forced breeding, castration, and sexual violence under slavery.
   
   

2. Understand the myth of the “Black buck” and its impact on modern media.
   
   

3. Learn how the penis was criminalized (e.g., Emmett Till) and weaponized against Black men.
   
   

4. Reject the colonial constructs of “hypermasculinity.”
   
   

5. Know the difference between respect, fear, and fetishization.
   
   

6. Reclaim the penis as a sacred source of life, not just pleasure or power.
   
   

7. Deconstruct pornography’s role in distorting Black sexuality.
   
   

8. Study the cultural symbolism of male sexuality in African traditions (e.g., fertility, balance).
   
   

9. Understand how prisons use strip searches and surveillance to control the body.
   
   

10. Talk about consent—what it really means, in relationships and society.
    
    

11. Reclaim clothing, posture, and expression free from racialized suspicion.
    
    

12. Know the sexual stereotypes that dehumanize (e.g., “animalistic,” “dominant”) and refute them.
    
    

13. Address the silence in families and churches around male sexual health.
    
    

14. Name and talk about the penis with clarity—not shame, not slang.
    
    

15. Read the laws and policies that still police the Black body today.
    
    

16. Recognize how respectability politics shaped how boys are taught about their bodies.
    
    

17. Stop passing down trauma through silence or harsh “discipline.”
    
    

18. Normalize Black male vulnerability and softness.
    
    

19. Define masculinity for yourself—not as dominance, but as self-control and care.
    
    

20. Know that healing is generational work—and it starts with truth.
    
    

Anatomy, Health & Body Sovereignty

21. Learn the correct names and functions of reproductive organs.
    
    

22. Know how to keep your penis clean and healthy.
    
    

23. Understand circumcision—cultural, medical, and ethical perspectives.
    
    

24. Learn about erections, wet dreams, and hormonal changes without shame.
    
    

25. Practice safe and consensual sexual practices.
    
    

26. Understand how food, stress, and trauma impact reproductive health.
    
    

27. Normalize asking for help when something feels wrong.
    
    

28. Learn the signs of STIs and how to protect yourself.
    
    

29. Know where to access trusted, culturally affirming health care.
    
    

30. Break the silence around testicular cancer, prostate health, and erectile issues.
    
    

31. Practice celibacy or sexual discipline with pride—not repression.
    
    

32. Learn how the nervous system and trauma affect arousal.
    
    

33. Practice mindful touch and somatic awareness.
    
    

34. Know how to advocate for your body at the doctor’s office.
    
    

35. Learn how to practice sexual energy transmutation.
    
    

36. Study the link between sexual energy and creativity/spirituality.
    
    

37. Honor your reproductive energy as sacred—not something to waste or exploit.
    
    

38. Choose intimacy—not performance.
    
    

39. Unlearn fear-based or religious shame about sexuality.
    
    

40. Understand the reproductive system as part of a larger energetic ecosystem.
    
    

41. Choose partners who honor your boundaries and body.
    
    

42. Have conversations with mentors, elders, or trusted adults about sex.
    
    

43. Teach younger brothers or sons from a place of love, not fear.
    
    

44. Treat women’s bodies with reverence and respect—never entitlement.
    
    

45. Learn the anatomy of consent—not just what “no” means, but what “yes” requires.
    
    

Cultural Roots & Sacred Masculinity

46. Study African traditions that honor masculinity with balance (e.g., Dogon, Yoruba, Akan).
    
    

47. Know that in African cosmology, masculinity is complementary to femininity—not superior.
    
    

48. Reclaim rituals of coming of age, initiation, and sexual responsibility.
    
    

49. Practice rites of passage with mentors and community.
    
    

50. Understand how European patriarchy is not the model.
    
    

51. Learn about sacred semen and its purpose in African traditions.
    
    

52. Create sacred space to explore manhood, fatherhood, and wholeness.
    
    

53. See your penis not as a weapon or tool—but as a bridge to legacy.
    
    

54. Teach that procreation is an honor, not a right.
    
    

55. Break cycles of “babies as trophies” without family planning.
    
    

56. Understand lineage, ancestry, and the power of your seed.
    
    

57. Choose fatherhood intentionally and with preparation.
    
    

58. View masculinity as stewardship, not dominance.
    
    

59. Honor the energy of the phallus as creation, not destruction.
    
    

60. Know stories of African kings, warriors, and healers who valued wisdom over ego.
    
    

61. Reclaim naming ceremonies and heritage to connect body and identity.
    
    

62. Create art, music, or poetry to express your masculinity.
    
    

63. Share stories with other Black men about body, sex, and healing.
    
    

64. Teach boys to take pride in privacy, modesty, and sacred expression.
    
    

65. Celebrate the beauty of the body without overexposure.
    
    

66. Reject media that turns Black men into sexual props.
    
    

67. Study how colonizers destroyed gender roles for profit and power.
    
    

68. Reimagine what it means to be a protector, without violence.
    
    

69. Define your manhood through service, truth, and spirit.
    
    

70. Connect your sexual power to your life’s divine purpose.
    
    

Relationship, Responsibility & Liberation

71. Cultivate emotional literacy—talk about feelings and touch.
    
    

72. Respect and protect the bodies of others—always.
    
    

73. Understand sexual orientation and gender identity without fear or judgment.
    
    

74. Never use your body to prove your worth.
    
    

75. Learn how to love without possession or control.
    
    

76. View relationships as sacred partnerships, not conquests.
    
    

77. Practice accountability for past mistakes without shame.
    
    

78. Value discipline over indulgence—especially in your youth.
    
    

79. Use your story to mentor others toward wholeness.
    
    

80. Reconnect with the land—grow food, create, and heal.
    
    

81. Channel your energy into building, not just performing.
    
    

82. Study systems of oppression so you can outsmart them.
    
    

83. Refuse to pass down plantation-era silence around sex.
    
    

84. Prioritize mental health as a part of reproductive health.
    
    

85. Join healing circles, therapy, or somatic healing as needed.
    
    

86. Respect women and femmes as divine mirrors—not trophies.
    
    

87. Practice co-parenting with responsibility and grace.
    
    

88. Celebrate pleasure that honors life, not destroys it.
    
    

89. Raise your sons and nephews with this liberated mindset.
    
    

90. Teach your daughters what consent, safety, and protection look like.
    
    

91. Create your own rituals of cleansing, reflection, and sexual renewal.
    
    

92. Let go of shame and secrecy—it is not yours to carry.
    
    

93. Know that healthy masculinity is powerful and gentle.
    
    

94. Work to end cycles of abuse, silence, and neglect.
    
    

95. Understand that joy, love, and sacred sex are revolutionary.
    
    

96. Honor your temple—body, mind, spirit.
    
    

97. Teach others from a place of love, not fear.
    
    

98. Make your body a vessel for peace and purpose.
    
    

99. Know that you are divine—not defined by the world’s distortions.
    
    

100. Live, love, and lead as a liberated man.